Attention all busy people!

"While you're ignoring her, another guy is giving her attention, while you're giving her problems, another guy is listening to her problems, while you're too busy for her another guy is making time for her."

A friend of mine quoted this in the middle of our conversation. He claims this is what happens to busy guys in a relationship. yeah. Guys like me. He claims that a girlfriend/wife of a busy guy almost always ends up this way.

Frankly I think this quote is bullcrap. Not because I think it's untrue nor I think women are more loyal than men, but solely because I think this quote is unfair - as it implicitly puts the blame on the busy guys. Yeah, I'll now speak on behalf of all busy guys. Heck, make it speaking on behalf of all busy people in a relationship.

I believe we, busy people, shouldn't be blamed when our mates suddenly fall out of love and find comfort in the arms of another. Not at all.

First, we're busy for a reason. In my case I have to grapple with academics and some necessary extra-curricular activities then I get midnight calls in the middle of grueling schoolwork or 1pm lunch invites that disrupt time for group projects. In others' cases it might be work. It may even be extra work to make ends meet in their family. If the opposite sex wants time and all that, here's a shoutout to you: you're not our top priority and for good reason. Academics are more important. Time for the family is more important. Children are more important. Prioritize as well. Our world does not revolve around you. Because unlike you, we can't break up with academics and most certainly we can't ditch responsibility for taking care of our family members.

Second, given we're busy, of all pastimes, why do you have to date/hang-out/chat/txt with a single particular person of the opposite sex all the time? geez. isn't that weird? that's a sure sign of infidelity in the future. You may label the person as a "friend" (as if that lessens the glaring sign of "I like this him/her so i'm hanging out with him/her!" in neon lights super-glued to your forehead).

Third, given the above above situation is true (that your mate is constantly hanging out/chatting/texting another even within a relationship), all the quotes claims would of course apply. But if your mate is not the type who flirts with the opposite sex and gawks at them, the quote won't make any sense. Let's take it line-by-line.

*While your ignoring her, another guy is giving her attention- If the person is not an infidel, would he/she entertain the guy/chick? NO. furthermore would he/she SEEK that person's attention? NO. If he/she does, he/she's an infidel.

*While your giving her problems, another guy is listening to her problem- Why does it have to be a person of the opposite sex? Like the person from the opposite sex could give sensible advice regarding what the person should do? it's idiocy.

*While you're too busy for her another guy is making time for her.- Again, a loyal person would not agree to this w/o permission from her man. But an infidel however,would not only spend time with another guy/girl e.g. lunch and dinner dates, but would ask the guy/girl to go with him/her to malls.

Last, a person who truly loves you will understand the nature and urgency of your priorities. Clearly, he/she's not that person. He/she is a clear example of a man/woman who truly loves himself/herself. Better ditch him/her.

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Through all this, busy people, don't fret. Let me tell you all why breaking up with the likes of an infidel may very well be the best choice of your life (if you didn't break up with her yet, do it now! fast!) and is not at all a reason to be depressed but a reason to celebrate!

1. Being busy is something that happens to all of us. Regardless of status, gender or whatever. It also occurs as early as student life to as late as adult life. If your mate can't handle you being busy as a student, chances are he/she won't be able to as an adult either. If he/she seeks that other guy/girl now, he/she'd seek guys in the adult stage of your relationship as well!

2. With the likes of him/her, breaking up is still the same logical thing you'd do after some time (who'd want to live in constant fear as you look at his/her inbox and see messages from the other guy/girl, and as people tell you he/she's always around with the other guy/girl?) and by that moment, you'd wish you've done it a lot sooner! so good thing you already did. There should be no regrets at all.

3. He/She left you not because the other person was the better choice. He/She left because the other option is gullible enough to spend time with him/her at his/her expense and give in to his/her nags. You're clearly the better, more sensible person.

Busy people, don't look at what happened as a failure. It's a success actually. It's part of a successful mechanism to find that mate who understands every part of you. Even your essential activities. An understanding mate would even suggest to put himself/herself below your obvious priorities. Because at the end of the day, your activities are essential and are not dates with single people from the opposite sex. He/She would definitely understand.

Ok so whether or not you'd liken your current mate to the examples i've been talking about negatively is up to you. Compromising your obvious top priorities to satisfy his/her whims is your choice as well. Stay gullible or get out of the ongoing foolery.

I just did and I'm quite convinced it's the most sensible thing I've done in my life. :) because right after, I was enlightened as to how she frequently gawks at other guys, stalks and shares photos of these guys, have lunches with a single guy, request dates at malls etc. ALL DURING THE CONFINES OF THE RELATIONSHIP.

I stopped the foolery and it's awesome.

-reposted from a reklamador draft by an anonymous author 3 years ago. THE DRAFTS ARE FULL OF EPIC STUFF!!!